Graduations in Hawaii are unlike anything anywhere else. My daughter, Tori, just graduated from high school. We have a home schooling network ministry that issues diploma, provides transcripts and produces a huge cap and gown ceremony. We had 13 grads this year, and a crowd of about 800 packed out Hope Chapel Kaneohe Bay for the event. Each of the grads had a 4 minute block of time to perform, and the talent displayed was awesome. After the ceremony there was a huge catered outdoor reception with lots of food, and the grads get heaps of beautiful flower lei and cards full of cash. In this picture Tori has only about 1/3 of the flowers she ended up with. The count was over 80, I think. It was an amazing night, and we were blessed with perfect weather, the nice folks at Hope Chapel were wonderful to us, and it was such a wonderful testimony to hear these 13 young adults honoring their parents, speaking well of their siblings and making the name of their Lord famous.
Random musings, visionary ideas, deep pondering & an occasional touch of inspiration. Frequent topics include leadership development, technology, and my reactions to current events and political trends.
5.24.2006
5.08.2006
An early Birthday Gift of the best kind.
I received an email tonight from a young family in my congregation. The man grew up in a very traditional Baptist church and his young wife grew up Lutheran. They are now members of my church and He is really gifted and called to be in some form of Pastoral ministry. After our service this weekend, with an emphasis upon the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the Day of Pentecost, Ryan & Julie sent this note. It took me a long time to read, since the tears kept blurring the words!
3.31.2006
Blessed with favor, twice in one day!

God blesses people with favor. Favor with Him, and favor before men. Now and then things happen that reveal God's favor in my life in ways that just amaze me. Today it happened. Twice.
3.29.2006
Conflicting views of China and the Church
12.22.2005
Prophylactic paradox
(Sounds a little more spiritual than "condom conundrum" I suppose.)
I have boundary issues. Admitting that helps me deal with it
constructively. The church I pastor is a fairly tight-knit community
of about 150 people. My family has attended this church for more than
20 years and it is the only congregation my kids have ever known.
These people are our friends, our extended ohana, and our support
system. Coming up through the ranks from layman, to Associate Pastor,
to Senior Pastor and District Overseer I have felt it necessary to
reinvent myself more than once. As the titles and roles change, the
relationships inevitably shift and change, too.
For the past five years we have lived in the church parsonage...
small but adequate housing provided by the church, located on the
church property. "On the church property" is not really accurate.
Because of the way this facility has grown and evolved, often without
a master plan, the church, office and parsonage are interconnected.
The front door of our residence is accessed by going THROUGH the
outer office! That leads to a lack of family privacy and a sense of
living in the fishbowl, on display at all times. If there's any kind
of meeting or activity going on in the office and we come home with
bags from WalMart we feel that people are checking out our purchases
as we walk past. As you might imagine, there are few secrets here and
it can be stressful being on display as the model family at all times.
Hence the title -- Prophylactic paradox (or condom conundrum).
Prophylactics are designed to encourage and facilitate intimacy,
while they prevent the kind of real physical contact that is the
intimate ideal. They are a barrier that consumers of the product
accept as an acceptable trade-off -- in exchange for the 'benefits'
of the barrier, they are able to achieve a measure of intimacy,
albeit incomplete. (I am getting there... stay with me.)
What we have tried to nurture is a kind of prophylactic intimacy
among our church family. We want to be close, but need a barrier to
preserve our own family life and privacy. It is a tightrope. Let that
barrier become too thick, too obvious, and the warmth and intimacy we
need to be effective is lost. Remove the barrier, and intimacy can be
dangerous. In practical terms, how do we keep our home as open as it
would be if we lived elsewhere, while keeping a workable boundary to
preserve our family life? How do we invite in those who have been
long-time friends and make them part of our life, while not allowing
our home to be simply an extension of the church facility?
A word to church boards everywhere. Do yourselves and your Pastor a
favor. When planning to provide a home for your Pastor, do NOT make
it on the church property. Give that Pastor's family the distance and
privacy you enjoy in your home, and you will be rewarded with better
leadership.
12.14.2005
A meaningful mantra.
In his book, The Art of the Start, Kawasaki gives real world practical advice to start-up entrepreneurs. I recently went to hear him speak on that subject and one of his points really registered with me.
He explained the futility of writing a complex mission statement that few read and even fewer understand. Instead, he suggests that companies and organizations develop a mantra. In this context a mantra refers to "a statement or slogan repeated often." Kawasaki used the example of Wendy's. Like most companies, Wendy's has a formal mission statement: To deliver superior-quality products and services to customers and communities through leadership, innovation, and partnership.
According to Kawasaki, Wendy's would do better with a mantra: Healthy fast food.
I have been giving that some thought. My church has a mission statement, because everyone else had one. I dare say if a first-timer asked anyone at the church for our mission statement few, if any, would have a clue what to tell them -- including our staff members! What we should have is a mantra. We need a simple, brief, memorable way to identify what we are all about to those who ask. It is still a work in progress, but at this point I have arrived at a 3 word mantra:
Real. Relevant. Relational.
What do you think?
12.13.2005
Quiet Christmas in a ghost town
11.24.2005
More "Desires of the Heart"
Our old 27" Panasonic TV was in the early stages of a slow death.
There were these annoying white lines across the top few inches of
the screen, and sometimes it looked almost like it reflected what was
below... really distracting.
Our living room is the youth magnet, constantly filled with my son
and daughter's friends watching TV, DVD's and playing video games. We
wanted something newer, nicer, and bigger but found the prices a bit
out of our budget. We would slow down and drool in Costco, Sam's Club
and Best Buy when we saw all the big, bright flat screens, but
couldn't justify the expense.
My daughter's boyfriend borrowed my van last week -- said he had to
move something. I helped him remove the middle seat and offered to
help him move, but he declined. An hour or so later he drove up and
asked me and my wife to step outside. The first thought that crosses
your mind at a moment like that is "Did he have an accident and dent
the vehicle?" He slid open the side door revealing a huge box with a
big bow. Inside the box? This...
A 42" Sony Wega 3LCD TV.
Now, this kid is a
university student, and I know he can't afford stuff like this. He
said it was an early Christmas gift from his family in California.
They know he spends most of his waking hours in our home, eats a lot
of meals here, and we have been his extended family during his time
in Hawaii, and they wanted to do something nice for us. Nice is a bit
understated in this case, don't you think?
10.28.2005
Bloggin' from the Blackberry
The elusive eBay-purchased Blackberry arrived on day 14 (October 27) at 3:PM.
It was as advertised, but I learned a few caveats for eBay buyers...
--make sure you ask for all books and manuals for electronic devices to save searching and downloading PDF's.
--You'd think a bluetooth headset would include a charger, but you can't assume it unless it says it!
New toys/new tools.
How amazing is this?
Sent from my BlackBerry wireless handheld.
10.27.2005
What is a Semicostal?
10.26.2005
Desires of my heart (Part 2)

This pile of steaming asphalt is part two of an answered prayer!
Unscheduled and unannounced, the same crew and supervisor arrived at
7:00 AM in my parking lot to complete a road repair immediately in
front of the church. As before, I went out and unlocked the front
restrooms for the workers, and waved to the supervisor. He
remembered me, waved back, and pointed to the parking lot, and
motioned thumbs up.

I went back in the office to do some paperwork and, a few hours
later, heard some noise, and saw the trucks dumping material in the
rough area of the lot.
God has some awesome secret agents all over, in all kinds of
businesses, and I am thankful he sent these folks to patch the road
on my street.
10.25.2005
Day 12 of the missing Blackberry
The eBay experience has not exactly lived up to expectations. 12 days
after money changed hands, 19 days after I started the bidding
process, I remain down $250 and have no Blackberry to show for my
efforts.
In the seller's defense, he insists that there was a problem with the
scanning of the shipping label at the USPS, and once he discovered
the source of the problem, he retrieved the package and sent it 2nd
day FedEx. Really. I have a working tracking number and everything.
The latest ETA is no-later-than 5:00 PM on Thursday, October 27.
That will be day 14. Maybe.
10.22.2005
9th day of the eBay saga.
It has been 9 days since I made my first eBay purchase, and it was
supposedly mailed Priority Mail via the USPS. From La Canada,
California to Kaneohe, Hawaii should not take nine days.
Although I still have not received the merchandise (did I mention it
has been NINE DAYS?) I got the seller's phone number from eBay and
called him. Voice mail, and little expectation of a return call ---
but 2 minutes later a very nice man called back, assured me the
package was shipped promptly by his assistant, and he completely
understood my nervousness.
It was a bit reassuring to put a voice (and a phone number) with the
name; made me able to wait out the weekend.
But, NINE days!
10.20.2005
eBay is not for the impatient.
I confess; I am not as patient as the rest of you. Yes, I have bought an item and opened it in the car before I got home. Okay, one time I bought new shoes and wore them out of the store, carrying the old pair out in the package. And then I get the bright idea to check out eBay.
9.29.2005
The desires of my heart.
9.28.2005
What kind are you?
9.06.2005
The performance aspect.
8.28.2005
God speaks through donkeys and Eagles.
8.26.2005
The 6,700 mile youth service.
Through the amazing use of technology our youth service spanned 6,700 miles tonight. Paul Ruddell, brother of Youth Pastor Steve Ruddell, is in Singapore studying missionary church planting. Using two Macintosh computers, iSight cameras and iChat, they did a live connection. Paul was able to watch the Praise & Worship Band and then he showed some photos and video clips from a recent short term summer mission trip to Vietnam.
With full duplex live video and sound -- projected wall size on our end -- it brought a bit of home to a young man far away, and reconnected our youth with him.
I spoke to a full-time field missionary who told me how laptops, broadband, email, chat and the instant connectivity has revolutionized missions. In years past, when a missionary had a serious prayer request or need, it could take weeks, or even months, for the mail exchanges necessary to get assistance. Now, when a need arises, missionaries often find someone online and can get prayer and support in real-time!
Thank God for the convenience of instantaneous communication virtually worldwide.